Recoving People Pleaser
Recovering People-Pleaser
The Art of Choosing Yourself
At the core of people-pleasing you may find anxiety about rejection, moral perfectionism, wanting to avoid conflict
and abandonment. People-pleasing often begins early on where one learns to align with the values and wishes of the caregivers in the environment. In some cases, to gain affection, love, and approval one feels that they must abandon themselves and their own needs to make sure the caregiver is "happy". This may create a cycle throughout life where one gravitates toward those who reinforce this message. It takes courage to choose oneself and it is not a one-time occurrence. To truly choose oneself is to understand the balance between yourself and another; where you begin and another person ends, and to have the courage to allow others to be responsible for their own emotions.
One reason this may be difficult is because many were taught that they were "bad" or "selfish" for having wants and needs, especially if those wants and needs were in conflict with the authority figure. The brain and nervous system become habituated to this, causing a chain-reaction where the nervous system seeks "familiarity", therefore seeking similar voices to the inner critic. Until one pauses, confronts the inner critic, and chooses to override the patterns that no longer work, the cycle will continue. This takes patience, time, understanding, and allowing yourself to fumble-forward while learning to love yourself through the process of choosing yourself. Breaking free involves unlearning patterns and using an open-mindset to navigate into who you truly want to be - having peace, happiness, and joy as you move through life! This weekly class is not a substitute for therapy rather, it is a way to collaborate with like-minded individuals who are exploring practical tools and strategies to find their own voice, just like you.
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This class is opening in June 2026 and will be online via Zoom.
You can take this class from the comfort of your own home!
To be notified and gather more information, such as pricing, seating availability, click on the link below and send us a quick message with your information and we will respond within 12-24 hours with all of the details.
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